Category: Let's talk
Not sure why this popped into my head earlier, but several years ago while I still had functional vision, I had a blind friend coming over to visit. I can't remember if I was running a few minutes late or if she arrived a few minutes early.
Long story short, I had just stepped out of the shower when she buzzed my intercom. I wrapped up in a towel and let her in. She made herself comfy on the sofa and I told her I was going to go in the bedroom and get into some clothes and I'd be back in a few minutes. She thought it was amusing that I left and closed the bedroom door.
"It's not like I can see you" she said. I told her it was just polite, that I wouldn't pick my nose (for example) in front of her either, just because she couldn't see me do it.
So what are your thoughts on this?
Would you undress or get dressed in front of a blind person you weren't on intimate terms with and how would you feel if someone did so in front of you, presuming you don't have enough vision to see much of anything?
According to the movie the Revenge of the Nerds, mopery is the crime of exposing oneself to a blind person.
I would have still been polite and closed the door. I think its all about
comfortablitiy. i'm comfortable get dressed infant of somebody i'm
intimate with but not so much my friends.
I use to do the same things with my blind friends, and still mostly do, although if I know for a fact someone is totally blind, I won't worry so much. In saying this though, I still feel uncomfortable - I think it's just societal norms.
And yes, I've been guilty of being on the other end and said to sighted friends "I can't see you at all; it's fine."
honestly it's not sighted or blind that keeps me from getting in dressed in front of someone. I've gotten undressed and dressed in front of my sighted and blind friends, but these were good friends, friends that didn't care and were just as comfortable with me.
I do not think it matters so much whether your friend is blind or not, but more how you both feel about nudity. Some people don't much care, like me, and others are quite shy. Respect the feelings of whom you are with.
I wouldn't feel even the slightest discomfort from stripping in front of a blind person or having one strip in front of me. The sighted can act weird around nudity, so I'm more selective when it comes to being undressed in front of them. I get the idea that many people are into clothes because they feel like something is wrong with their bodies, not just because they want protection from the elements.
Is that your cane, or are you just pleased to see me?
It's all about decorum and personal space. I always lock doors when I'm doing anything private, even while visiting my girlfriend. lol. It's an ingrained aspect of my culture -- we're very private people. Sighted or no, I treat them equally when it comes to personal affairs. You go to your side of the door and I'll go to mine, with it locked, until I'm done changing or whatever else.
some have called me a prude. getting undressed in front of anyone who is not my husband just doesn't happen. when I change in to a swim suit for water aerobics, I go in the bathroom stall. not disrobing in the locker room in front of other fat old ladies thanks so much. it would never occur to me to run around naked in front of a blind person. for heaven sake, they might run in to me.
I do same for blind people as I do sighted.
If we're intimate, I don't care, if not, I dress in a room or bathroom.
It is odd, but I tend to think a blind person can sense if you are nude maybe.
Some people give off a more human scent too if they don't have on anything.
Have to ask this. When I was a teenager and in swimming class, all the girls were out in the open in a locker room. You had to change from your bathing suit into your clothes. No privacy at all everybody was together. Are locker rooms still like that for high school students? I never liked it, and was glad when swim class was done for the semester. Just had one semester of it.
Pasco makes sense.
It has to do with how comfy you are with your body and all that. I personally don't give it to much thought but I do see how other people could be bothered.
I have to agree with post 8. It really is mostly about decorum, with a bit of politeness tossed in on the side. I've even slept over at completely blind people's houses when I was younger, good friends, and never gotten naked in front of them. It's a societal norm that's engrained in most of us, blind or otherwise.
Yes, but on the other hand, is being naked going to kill anybody? I dare say it won't.
Even some public gyms are that way. You change in a communal room.
But, that is different. It will be all guys, or all girls, and you just expect to do it I guess.
yes, they still do locker rooms in school. I am not ashamed of being nude. I won't get undressed in front of just anyone. We both have to be mutually ok with it.
Lol you guys said it better than me.
I'm vote getting naked in a private area whether they can see me or not. I live in a sighted world, so it's just the thing to do...
But it's not a blind issue.
It seems to be a sighted issue. People are concerned about who can or cannot see them naked. Without sighted people around, it's not even a coherent thing to worry about.
Depends on where and who's hands are.
JK.
Laughing.
It really depends on how shy you are.
I agree, it's not a blind or sighted issue. It has to do with us as an individual. I've dressed in front of plenty sighted people. Locker rooms, friends houses, even in bathrooms. It was with girlfriends and I didn't care if they saw me nude. Sure it's polite not to undress in front of those who aren't comfortable. But I've never had sighted or blind friends that cared if I was undressing or not. I'm very comfortable with them undressing as well, even if I could see, it doesn't matter to me. I'm not looking anyways.
And even if you were, big woop! It is what it is. If someone feels weird about it they can speak up and of course that must be respected.
exactly to the post above this one
yeah, for sure it has to do with comfort and not just intimacy. I mean when you share a room or go camping with a bunch of guys, you're probably not going to feel that weird about changing in front of them. it's just changing, after all, not an orgy.
It did take me quite a long time as a child to really understand that there was a taboo against nudity. I remember walking around the house naked as a kid and not even thinking twice about it. THen one day my dad just grabbed me and hauled me into my room and said my sister's friends were over and that I couldn't just go downstairs with no clothes on. I was genuinely shocked to hear this. haha
lol My post obviously was misunderstood.
I meant that most of the time, I am around sighted people, and for these reasons, I prefer to undress in a private setting. Sure, they're not going to look at me, but still, it's just, the right thing to do to me.
And that is what it comes down to. If you feel it is the right thing to do, then do it
I agree, it all depends on you. Not judging anyone who doesn't get changed in front of their friends. When I got huge during pregnancy and right after the fact, I refused to get undressed in front of my girlfriends. I just was not feeling so hot, which made me feel uncomfortable.
Just do what makes you feel comfortable.
I think a big part of it is that we, as a society, were brought up to be ashamed of the human body in certain situations. Trust me I'm not judging and saying people on here are prudes. Stay true to yourself and your values.